A few weeks ago an ‘acquaintance’ bumped into me and my husband on a rare evening out together with some friends. We hadn’t seen her for a while, so when our gaze met, she bowled over and without so much as a “how are you?” she launched at me with:
“Any more babies yet?”
Before I could say anything, she proceeded to rip open my coat (I kid you not!) and announce to anyone who could hear:
“Nope. I can confirm, there are no more babies here.”
To say that I was stunned would be an understatement, I honestly couldn’t compute what had just happened, or how to respond before she waltzed off to the bar.
What continues to absolutely amaze me as a woman her 30s, is how:
- Anyone thinks it is their business to ask something like that
- Anyone could be so brazen and thoughtless
In situations like that, words always fail me. I was unable to make a smart comeback and tell her how some women have problems in that area, some have just lost a pregnancy, and some may long for a baby, but they don’t have a partner yet and some *shock horror* may just be happy as they are.
All being well, I definitely see more than one child in our future, however, what we have now is just as we want it. We have a beautiful, smart, loving daughter, two little furballs who bring us and their human sister so much joy and we have each other.
The point of this post?
To remind and reassure, that whatever your situation, to continue doing things YOUR way, at YOUR own pace and make sure you do what is right for YOU and those who actually matter, instead of what the magazines, media or jumped up busybodies say is the right or wrong way.
Do not let anyone ever make you doubt that your life isn’t the way it should be. You and your situation, whatever it may be, is enough, just as you are.
“When you love what you have, you have everything you need.”